Move Dinner Earlier Than Feels Right, Before Hunger Starts the Search

Late in the day, many people with dementia eat less than they did, forget they already had a meal, or feel hungry without a clear reason. For Mom, an empty stomach or a dry mouth can look like pacing, opening cupboards, or a sudden need to go out and find something. What looks like an exit may be a search for food or water.

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Look back at what she ate since noon

Before the late afternoon starts, write down in plain words what she ate at breakfast and lunch, any snack, and whether she drank anything besides coffee or tea. If the day looks thin, restlessness may be hunger or thirst, and the first fix is a small plate of food and a glass of water, not a locked door.

Move dinner before her hardest hour

Pick a dinner time that falls before the restless stretch, not after it. If she eats at six and the restlessness starts at five, serve dinner at half past four. Use the same chair, the same plate, and the same place at the table each day so the routine is easy to follow. Clear the dishes once she is finished so she does not get up to follow them.

Keep something within easy reach

Set out a small plate of crackers, fruit, or a sandwich cut into halves, with a cup of water beside it, in a spot she can reach without help. Choose foods she already likes and can eat with her hands. Ask whoever knows her routine what she usually reaches for at this hour, and what she has turned down lately.

Bring changes in appetite to her doctor

If she is eating much less than before, or drinking very little, tell her doctor at the next visit and note the hours when it happens. Changes in eating and drinking can have several causes, and only her doctor can sort them out. Do not settle on food as the whole story until someone has checked.

Test it for three evenings

For three evenings, note the time of dinner, what she ate, the time she first gets restless, and whether she moves toward a door. Compare the lists after the third night. If restlessness comes later on the nights she ate earlier, you have found a pattern worth keeping. If nothing changes, food was not the trigger, and you can move on to the rest of the late-day window.

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